Building Healthy Relationships Podcast: Will You Believe?
February 14, 2015
Building Healthy Relationships: Part 1- What I’ve Learned.
Building Healthy Relationships: Part 2- Will You Believe?
As simple minded as it may be, when I was a young girl, my heart’s one true desire was to be married. But not just to any old man. Like most girls, I dreamed of sailing off into the sunset with the man of my dreams.
We often met at the ball. Me wearing my glass slippers, and he dressed to the nines in his perfectly pressed, black tuxedo. When the night began, we danced alone. But before the clock struck midnight, from across the room our eyes met.
My life was changed in an instant. It was love at first sight.
I knew he was “the one.” But more importantly, he knew me, as well.
I was his princess.
And he– was my prince; the man I had dreamed about for years. The one I spent a lifetime waiting for. He who knew me better than anyone else. The one who spent a lifetime cherishing, admiring and pampering me, his beloved wife. It was he, who could read my heart by simply looking into my eyes. My prince- the one who recognized my beauty and could see my worth. It was he- the only gentleman in the world worthy of my love.
It was my fairy tale. My dream. My heart’s desire…
Psalm 37:4, “Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.
In reality, I spent years waiting for the ball, expecting to one day meet my prince. For years, I was disappointed. Discouragement made her home in my heart. I’d lie awake at night wondering, “God- You who created the Universe- Why won’t you grant me just this one wish?”
It took some time, but eventually I came to understand… I wasn’t yet the wife deserving of the husband I so longed for.
In my time of waiting, God molded me into a woman perfectly suited for my loving prince. And, I promise you, he was well-worth the wait.
In this latest series, “Building Healthy Relationships,” I share some of the important lessons I learned in my time of waiting (lessons that have proven to be invaluable in the making of a beautiful life and healthy, happy relationships) and what you can do to begin the process of restoring and/or making stronger the relationships you are currently in.
Whether you are married or single, you will love this message of hope. God has a great plan for your life, and a great plan for your future. He desires that you have healthy, happy relationships. I am convinced that this series has the power to set you on course for a beautiful sunset and your own happily ever after.
Battlefield of the Mind Podcast: Don’t Give Up- The “Greats” Were People Just Like You.
November 28, 2014
Battlefield of the Mind Podast: Don’t Give Up-
The “Greats” Were People Just Like You.
Do you have a dream on the inside of you that you long to accomplish? Maybe it is a vision to feed the hungry? Or house the poor? Have you thought about adopting a child or opening an orphanage? Maybe you dream of rescuing lost puppies or victims of sex trafficking.
No matter how big or small your vision is, there is a tendency for us to think, “How could ‘I’ make a difference?”
When the Lord calls His children to step out into something bigger than ourselves, our first instinct is to think that somehow He has got the wrong person for the job. “Surely,” we think, “The Lord wasn’t speaking that to me. He must have got the wrong person.”
We go on to make our lists of how underqualified we are for the job. Excuses like: “I don’t have enough money… I am to inpatient… I don’t have any good connections… I have never done that before… I don’t know the first thing about how to………” And on and on the list goes.
Have you ever stop to think, though, about the “Greats” of the Bible?
I mean. Really. Stop and think about the “Greats” of the Bible. People like Moses. And Abraham. Gideon. And Esther. Ruth and Naomi. And King David. These men and women were people just like you and me- with all kinds of weakness and frailties. They had inadequacies and tempers- just like you and me. Yet, the Lord used them anyway.
In this last message from the Battlefield of the Mind series, entitled, “Don’t Give Up- The ‘Greats’ Were People Just Like You and Me” you will be reminded that God doesn’t call the qualified. He qualifies the called.
You. Yes. You. You have been called by your Father to greatness. Whether it is to greatness in your home. Your community. Your church. Your nation. Or your world. You were designed for greatness.
Isaiah 43:1, “But now, thus says the LORD, your Creator… And He who formed you… “Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name; you are Mine!”
I pray that as you listen to this message you will learn what it takes to fulfill that great call.
Father, I pray that every person who reads this blog and /or listens to this message would come to the revelation that You have a great plan for their lives. I pray they would understand that You aren’t looking for perfection. That you don’t call the qualified, but that you qualify those You call. And- that you have called each of us by name. I pray that you would remind your children that it is our weakness that actually make us the right one for the job- that You would receive ALL the glory. In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen.
Battlefield of the Mind Podcast: Quit Making Excuses
November 17, 2014
Battlefield of the Mind: Quit Making Excuses
In life, everyone has a story. I have found that it doesn’t really matter what “your story” is, if you are looking for a reason to stay in the place you are, (not pressing toward the good life the Lord has for you) you will always be able to find one.
If we are not careful, the reason we are the way we are, can quickly turn into the excuse we use to stay that way. When our reasons become our excuses, we get ourselves into trouble. These excuses keep us stagnant and prevent us from moving into the victory that God has for us.
Your past or present may be more challenging than someone else’s. But- it is not your past situation or even your current one that prevents you from entering into your Promised Land. Rather– it is your attitude and mindset toward your set of circumstances and the excuses you make that keep you in bondage to defeat.
In today’s “Battlefield of the Mind” podcast, I will show you five practical steps you can take to begin to move toward the victorious life you long for. If you take a few moments to listen and then apply the principles in this series to your life, you will not be disappointed. You are guaranteed to reap great benefits. It is how God’s Word works.
Galatians 6:7, “Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, this he will also reap.”
Battlefield of the Mind Podcast: Please Make Everything Easy, I Can’t Take It If Things Are Too Hard!
November 8, 2014
Battlefield of the Mind Podcast
I have heard it said that life is 90% attitude and 10% circumstance. In other words, life isn’t so much about what happens to you, but how you respond to it. The longer I live, the more I recognize this truth as fact. I am wholly convinced that having the right attitude is a key principle in navigating through life successfully.
Having the wrong mindset towards a circumstance can turn a menial task into one of the most grueling ones. If you don’t believe me, just think for a moment about how much your children complain when offered a bite of a food they don’t like. What would take 5 seconds to chew and swallow will quickly turn into a long, drawn out temper-tantrum at the dinner table ending in tears and frustration an hour later.
Unfortunately, like children facing brussel sprouts, when facing challenges in life many people destroy themselves before they ever even get started. They kill their opportunity for success with mindsets that sound something like this… “I can’t take it anymore. This is just too hard!”
I promise you- You are stronger than you know.
Whatever it is that you are going through today, I want to encourage you. With the right attitude, you will make it through the other side. The Lord has promised you victory. You are strong enough to bear it. And it is not too difficult for you!
Deuteronomy 30:11, “For this commandment which I command you this day is not too difficult for you, nor is it far off.”
In this podcast based on Joyce Meyer’s book, “Battlefield of the Mind”, you will learn how to work with the grace of God to bring about the desired change in your attitudes allowing you to face every situation with the proper mindset for victory.
Battlefield of the Mind Podcast: Wilderness Mentalities
November 2, 2014
Part 1: “My Future is Determined by My Past and My Present”
Part 2:”Someone Do It for Me; I Don’t Want to Take Responsibility.”
Battlefield of the Mind: Wilderness Mentalities
Can you imagine going through life with dark tinted windows? Shades over your eyes? Or walking in a fog? Never truly being able to appreciate the world for what it has to offer.
Would you even know how blue the sky really is? Or how brightly the sun shines every day?
Unfortunately, many people who go through life like this don’t realize they are missing out on anything. They are blinded by darkness, yet it is unbeknownst to them. They don’t have literal shades on, but these people see life through a foggy filter that warps every good gift and constantly leaves them wanting more.
I used to be “one of them.”
I had so much to be thankful for, yet I couldn’t truly appreciate my life. I was forever looking at what was missing in my life. Instead of appreciating all the good things I had been blessed with, I focused on the few things I was lacking.
My mind was a wilderness, full of all kinds of wrong mindsets. I was deceived into thinking all kinds of lies. One of the biggest was this: If I could just get this, then I would be that… And then, I’d really be happy.
Over the course of time, through much prayer and seeking the Lord, I realized this simple truth… “You can’t make an unhappy person, happy.” A person who is a wilderness on the inside will feel discontent even in the most majestic of places.
Once I made this awesome discovery, my life began to change. Not because my situation changed. The change took place inside of me. My wilderness mindset soon turned into a bubbling brook.
John 7:38, “Whoever believes in Me, as scripture has said, rivers of living water will flow from within them.”
In this podcast, based on Joyce Meyer’s best-selling book, “Battlefield of the Mind,” you will learn how to change your wilderness mentalities into life producing ones.
Hope and Healing Through Hurting Times
October 26, 2014
Hope and Healing Through Hurting Times
When we go through a trial in life, one of the biggest lies of the enemy is to make us feel as though we are alone; that no one else struggles with similar challenges; and that we will never get though to the other side of our mess in victory. The truth is, however, that in life we all go through difficult seasons. We all struggle with unruly emotions at times, and with the right tools, we can make it to the other side victoriously.
Learning how to negotiate the emotions that come with being hurt or disappointed is key in finding healing. In this week’s podcast, my long-time friend, Tania Stout, shares how she overcame adversity when life didn’t turn out the way she expected. She shares with complete candor what it is to be vulnerable and how to grieve the loss of a dream in order to reach a place of total wholeness in mind, soul and body.
I believe, you too, will be inspired to work through your emotions to reach a place of wholeness as you listen this week. (We will return to Week 8 of the Battlefield of the Mind series next week.)
Tania Stout is a licensed Mental Health Counselor and graduated with her Master’s in Mental Health Counseling from the University of Central Florida in 2006, and has been working with children and families for the past twelve years. Tania specializes in the treatment of trauma and is an EMDR trained clinician. Tania is highly skilled in working with individuals, couples and families and her areas of specialty also include: anxiety, depression, women’s emotional health, play therapy and child and adolescent behavior issues. Tania has also had specific training in perinatal mood disorders and has worked with new mothers experiencing post-partum depression. She is also certified as a Supreme Court Family Mediator and has completed the parent coordination training.
Tania became a therapist to help people navigate life’s challenges in order to live a healthier, happier life. She dedicates a focused commitment to her clients in providing the highest quality of care and believes people can change, heal, recover, grow and achieve maximum results in reaching their full potential and dreams. She is characterized by others as a genuine and highly passionate therapist and has excelled in facilitating her clients in working through their past and current struggles in order to achieve new insights for optimum personal growth.
For more information on Tania’s private counseling practice, please visit her at www.VeritasCounselingInc.com
Battlefield of the Mind Podcast: The Mind of Christ
October 18, 2014
Part 1: A Passive Mind
Part 2: The Mind of Christ
Battlefield of the Mind Podcast Week 7: The Mind of Christ
The night before His crucifixion, Jesus instructs His disciples not to be troubled (John 14:1). Jesus knows the disciples are about to face the most trying time of their lives. He is well aware that His death is going to rock the disciples to the core. Yet, He commands them not to allow their hearts or minds to be troubled.
Think about this situation from the disciples’ standpoint for a moment.
The disciples believed Jesus was the long-awaited Messiah who was the “King of Kings.” They laid down their lives to follow Him. Each disciple left his family and friends to pursue the Lord. The disciples left their comfort and security to follow Jesus. These twelve men quit their jobs to join Jesus in teaching others about God.
They falsely expected Jesus to set up His kingdom on Earth.
But He didn’t.
Instead, Jesus fulfilled the plan of God by laying down His life on Calvary’s Cross. He died the death of a murderer -even though He had done nothing wrong.
How confusing for Peter, James, John and the disciples. As far as they could see, everything they had lived for up until this point was gone. Their livelihood appeared to be destroyed. Their Messiah was dead. And with His death… went their hopes, dreams and plans.
Peering at the Cross, these men could not make sense of what had taken place. Yet Jesus, knowing how completely defeated His disciples would feel, told His followers not to let their hearts be troubled.
This Word is still as pertinent today as it was 2014 years ago. It doesn’t matter what you are going through, how things appear, or whether or not they are as you expected. If you will keep your eyes on Jesus and trust in His plan, you can remain in perfect peace through every storm knowing that His plans far supersede your understanding
Isaiah 26:3, “You will guard him and keep him in perfect and constant peace whose mind (both its inclination and its character) is stayed on You, because he commits himself to You, leans on You, and hopes confidently in You.”
In this Battlefield of the Mind Podcast, I give real life examples on everything from how to keep your home life in order to letting your voice be heard in your relationships. Through personal examples and teaching from the Word of God, you will learn how to overcome passivity and walk in the mind of Christ.
I am confident you will enjoy this latest “Battlefield of the Mind” podcast on Chapter 12 and 13 of Joyce Meyer’s best-selling book, “Battlefield of the Mind.” Check it out!
Battlefield of the Mind Podcast: Why worry?
October 12, 2014
Part 1: Why Worry?
Part 2: A Judgmental Mind?
Battlefield of the Mind Week 6: Why worry?
What is worry? Why do we do it? And how do we stop it?
This is the topic of the Battlefield of the Mind Podcast for this week. If you will take a few minutes to listen, I believe the message presented will radically change your life. Simply click on the play button for Part 1.Then wait a few minutes in order for the message to download. Repeat for Part 2. (In part 2, I share an incredible dream the Lord gave me recently which you are sure to be blessed by.)
The definition of worry is to torment oneself with disturbing thoughts or to allow your mind to dwell on difficulty.
Did you hear that? To worry is to torment yourself by allowing your mind to dwell on difficulty. On the contrary, the definition of peace is freedom from disturbance. So how do we get from a worried mind to one of peace?
The Word says in Philippians 4:6, “Be anxious or nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”
Knowing that “do not worry” is a command from the Lord. We have the assurance that it is possible to live a worry-free life. However, in order to walk in this victory, we have a role to play in ridding our minds of this useless emotion. While it is true we can not stop certain thoughts from entering our mind, we do have the ability to control how long we think on those particular thoughts.
We can not have peace and torment ourselves by thinking on difficulty at the same time. We must begin to actively resist the temptation to think on worrisome things by replacing those thoughts with the truth written in the Word of God. When we do, we will begin to experience the “peace that passes understanding” the Bible promises us.
This Podcast based on Chapter 12 and 13 of Joyce Meyer’s book, “Battlefield of the Mind” is sure to transform your thinking, help you to live the life that Christ has called you to, and rid yourself of an anxious/worried/judgmental mind.
Battlefield of the Mind Podcast: Let Go of Reasoning and Doubt
October 5, 2014
Part 1: Stop Reasoning
Part 2: Doubt Your Doubts
Battlefield of the Mind: Let Go of Reasoning and Doubt – Week 5
Chapter 10 and 11
There are many things in this world I don’t understand: How does – an 875,000 pound airplane fly so magnificently through the sky? Or a 40,000 ton cruise boat not sink to the bottom of the ocean? How does the dish outside my home bring a live feed of the latest baseball game straight to my living room? And how can my husband rewind it and watch the same play over and over again?
With all of the technology in the world, it still blows my mind that electricity enters my home through an outlet and activates everything I need to cook, clean and blow dry my hair simply by pressing the “on” button. I am flabbergasted that I can type an email, and in mere moments it will reach the hands of another person half way around the world. Forget cell phones and GPS systems, I am still amazed by the fact that a phone attached to the wall with a cord can connect me with my mother-in-law in Missouri at the touch of a button. Call me simple, but even the way an oak tree grows from a mere seed and a caterpillar turns into a butterfly continues to mystify me.
Sure. I understand that there is a natural set of events that cause these things to take place. But on a certain level, I have to simply trust that the mechanisms work the way “they” say they do. After all, with my natural eyes, I can’t see electricity, the signals that cause television waves, or what is happening to a seed below the ground.
I feel confident that if we were to travel back in time, even just a mere one hundred years ago, many people would surely tell us that some of the modern conveniences we have available today are simply not achievable. Yet they would be wrong. Every day, we discover something that was, at one time or another, thought to be impossible.We are constantly discovering new ideas that push open wide the boundaries we once held this life to.
I wonder. What will it take to get some to see that just because you can’t make sense of it…. doesn’t mean it isn’t there? Just because you can’t see something. Or feel it. Or taste it, doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.
The word says in Romans 1:17, “For in it (the Gospel of Christ) the righteousness of God is revealed from faith to faith; as it is written, “The just shall live by faith.”
There are many activities I participate in every day that I can’t explain.
I simply trust.
I trust that my couch won’t cave in when I sit on it. I trust that my light will come on when I flip the switch. I trust that I will wake up in the morning to start a new day, every day. I trust that my legs will hold me up when I get out of bed. And that when I open my refrigerator to make breakfast, my food will still be in there.
We put our trust in a whole lot of things. Many of which, we cannot see. Some we don’t even understand. Why wouldn’t we put our trust in God, too?
In this Battlefield of the Mind Podcast, we tackle the role of reasoning, logic and doubt in learning how to live by faith. Through personal testimony, coupled with teaching from the Word of God, you will learn how to lean on the Lord rather than on your own limited understanding in life’s difficult situations.
I am confident you will enjoy this latest “Battlefield of the Mind” podcast on Chapter 10 and 11 of Joyce Meyer’s best-selling book, “Battlefield of the Mind.”
If I Had One Year to Live….
October 2, 2014
When I heard the news that my sister in law, Nadine Brandes, landed a contract on her book, “A Time to Die,” I was elated. My excitement soon turned to apprehension, however, as I realized I would have to actually read the book and give a review of it. Quite frankly, I hadn’t been able to finish a fiction book since I was fifteen when my sophomore English teacher convinced me I would love to read if I just would give the book, “Rebecca” a chance. I hated it.
“What if I hate Nadine’s book too? What if she really can’t write at all? What if it is so bad, I can’t finish it? How will I write an honest review of the book? After all, she is my sister-in-law…”
After reading “A Time to Die” last month I am proud to say, all of my fears were unfounded. The book is absolutely incredible! In fact, I can see it on the big-screen. It is that good!
From the moment I started reading, I was captivated.
With three young children, a part-time job, and a bible study to prepare, I was able to read it (on my phone- imagine that) in just a few short days. The story is well-developed. The characters are relatable. The imagery is vivid. The message is thought provoking.
I could hardly put it down.
In honor of the book release, I decided to participate in the blog hop to answer the question: How would you live if you knew you had just one year left on this earth?
(Click here for instructions on how you can participate in the Blog Hop, too.)
So… How would I live if I knew I had just one year left on this earth?
This is a question I have rolled over and over in my head for weeks. What would my life look like? What would I change? What would I keep the same? How would I live?
I could tell you a million things, but there one particular that sticks out in my mind leaps and bounds above the rest. While I try diligently to perfect this area in my every day life, I am constantly falling short.
In my last year of life, I would undoubtedly be present in my present. In every situation and every conversation – particularly with my children – I would strive to be all there.
With all of the demands placed on me, I frequently find myself only half-present in my now. I half-listen to the excitement in my daughter’s voice as she relays the latest book she is reading. I half-witness the pleasure my boys enjoy as they conquer another Indiana Jones adventure… Each time, only half-experiencing the moment I am living in.
I take for granted that “there is always tomorrow.” I wrongly trade my enjoyment of today for the opportunity to experience it tomorrow.
But tomorrow never comes.
I hear myself telling my children the same lines over and over again. “Yes. Mommy will play with you in just a few minutes.” But, the laundry takes longer than I plan. Or the phone rings and I get sidetracked. Each night as I prepare dinner, three sets of hands beg for my attention, but I don’t have time. I send them away. “Not today. Tomorrow we will have fun in the kitchen making dinner.” But tomorrow, never comes. Homework calls and the dishes long to be washed. The kids’ teeth need brushed and their hair washed. Before I know it I am hollering from my computer, “Hurry along kids! It’s time for bed. Tomorrow is another day.”
We will do it…
James 4:13-14, “Now listen, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go to this or that city, spend a year there, carry on business and make money. Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow…”
Even as I write this post, I am convicted. My throat has a lump. My eyes feel heavy. Tears stream down my face. Why do I put off the joy of life through the wonder of my children for the chance to clean my house, again.
Pretty soon, they will be all grown up. They will head off to the movies with their friends. They will beg me to drop them off at the football game. They will leave for college. And have children of their own. Instead, of me saying it to them, I will hear my own words echoed through their voices…
“Tomorrow Mommy. We will spend the day together tomorrow.”
I don’t want another tomorrow to come without being fully invested in today. Rather than let another moment pass me by, today I am throwing away the half-life. From this day forward, I will be completely vested in experiencing to the fullest – my present.
No one knows the day or the hour that our lives will end. But one thing I know for sure…. It will come much quicker than I have planned.
I don’t want to half-live another minute.
How about you?
“Lord, I can’t do is without you. I need your help recognizing what is truly important in my life. Help me to lay aside that which can wait to invest myself fully in that which really matters. Help me Lord, to be present in my present from this day forward. And forgive me when I fall short. In Jesus’ name I pray, Amen.”
How would you live if you knew the day you’d die? (Book Summary)
Parvin Blackwater believes she has wasted her life. At only seventeen, she has one year left according to the Clock by her bedside. In a last-ditch effort to make a difference, she tries to rescue Radicals from the government’s crooked justice system.
But when the authorities find out about her illegal activity, they cast her through the Wall —— her people’s death sentence. What she finds on the other side about the world, about eternity, and about herself changes Parvin forever and might just save her people. But her Clock is running out.
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“A Time to Die” is Nadine Brandes’ first novel in the Out of Time trilogy. To learn more about her, you may find her at any of these places. Simply click on one of the links below: