Building Healthy Relationships Podcast: 6 Absolutes of Good Communication

Building Healthy Relationships: 6 Absolutes of Good Communication – Part 1

Building Healthy Relationships: 6 Absolutes of Good Communication – Part 2

One night as I was preparing for this “Building Healthy Relationship” series, my daughter, Aspen suggested that I should have a guest speaker share at the study. Curious, I asked her who she thought that  person ought to be. With her finger pointed toward herself, I wondered what she could possibly bring to the table in a discussion about building healthy relationships. So I asked her the question…

*****“What does a good relationship look like?”******

Her answer amazed me. So, as requested, here are 12 ingredients needed to have healthy relationships through the eyes of a ten year old- written word for word without any coaxing.

  1. You need to be able to say, “You’re right. I am wrong. I made a mistake.”
  2. You need to know that life isn’t always about you.
  3. You need to be able to keep your emotions in tact.
  4. You need to be selfless.
  5. When you aren’t agreeing on something, sometimes you need to let them have it their way and compromise.
  6. You should talk it out when you have a problem.
  7. You need to be nice and not focus on everything bad about them.
  8. You need to tell them good things about themselves.
  9. Whenever something is bothering the other person, you need to show them that you care by hugging them, kissing them and telling them good stuff about them.
  10. You need to go on dates and spend time together.
  11. You need to read the Bible and books about having good relationships.
  12. You need to say “thank you” when they do something for you.

Amazing how much we could benefit from putting these few bites of information into practice in our lives.

This week’s podcast focuses on the 6 Absolutes of Good Communication – six things we should never do/say if we want to have good relationships in our life. I hope you take a moment to listen in.

Please join us on Thursday mornings at 10am in the Avenue Worship Center of East Coast Christian Center in Merritt Island, Florida for the continuation of the “Building Healthy Relationships” series.

Building Healthy Relationships Podcast: Building Godly Character

Building Healthy Relationships: Part 1- Being Servant-Hearted.

Building Healthy Relationships: Part 2- Be led by the Spirit, Not by your Emotions.

Building Healthy Relationships: Part 3- Be intentional

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April 21, 2002. My hands were sweaty. My knees- weak. My stomach in knots from the butterflies that kept bumping into each other. I was twirling in circles on the inside. My heart was reeling with a flood of emotion. My mind spinning on a merry-go-round.

Could this man be the one I have been praying all my life for?

As I sat across the table from him at Outback Steakhouse in Vero Beach, Florida, he took my hands and held them with his heart. I cried a flood of tears as he asked about my parents’ divorce a few years earlier. I had only known him for a few hours, but it felt like a lifetime. He was so tender. So sweet. So loving. And wonderful.

The next few months were the most intensely thrilling days of our lives. We barely ate. We hardly slept. We spent hours upon hours talking into the wee hours of the night. We bore our heart and souls to one another. When we weren’t together, we were thinking about all of the wonderful qualities the other possessed.

We magnified the good, and the good got even better. We skipped over every fault, and they were non-existent. (It is amazing what this concept will do for any relationship.)

Falling in love is wondrous. It’s miraculous. And magical.

But for most couples, it doesn’t last. In fact, according to some statistics, approximately 50% of marriages end in divorce. Such a sad, staggering thought; and so contrary to God’s plan for His children to join together as “one flesh.”

Genesis 2:25, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”

Have you ever contemplated how two people fall ‘head over heels’ in love so easily? And yet, that same couple can manage to fall out of love so fast?

In reality, keeping those feelings alive has little to do with a feeling (or who you chose for a spouse.) Rather, staying in love has to do with how intentional you are in those relationships. If we put half as much effort into staying in love as we put into falling into it, we would begin to experience marriage as it was intended to be.

Honestly, love has nothing to do with “falling” at all.

Love is a choice.

And the truth is, good relationships don’t just happen. They are intentional. Great friendships require work. Top-notch marriages are built… And if yours are broken, the good news is- with some intentionality- they can be rebuilt from the ground up.

This week’s “Building Healthy Relationships”podcast focuses on the qualities of (1) being servant hearted, (2)being led be the Spirit of God and not by your emotions and (3) being intentional in your relationships. I hope you will take some time to listen in on how to build (or rebuild) healthy relationships in your life.

Building Healthy Relationships Podcast: It All Starts With You.

Building Healthy Relationships: It All Starts With You… Week 2-Part 1

Building Healthy Relationships: It All Starts With You… Week 2-Part 2

A few years ago, a woman greeted me at the end of the long aisle of my church. She wanted prayer for her husband – that the Lord would change him. The prayer I prayed sounded nothing like what she asked for.

It wasn’t my intention….

But it was the leading of my heart.  I prayed, instead, that the Lord would change her.

Matthew 7:3-5,  says“And why do you look at the speck in your brother’s eye, but do not consider the plank in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me remove the speck from your eye; and look a plank is in your own eye? Hypocrite! First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck in your brother’s eye.”

I believe we spend way too much time looking outwardly at others, pointing to the faults we see in those we love.  We point out their imperfections; their weaknesses, their shortcomings. When, truly, we should be pointing our finger at ourselves- the only person we can do anything about; the only person we can actually change.

Why is it that we see the faults of others through a microscope, but look at ours through rose-colored glasses? It should not be so.

In this powerful teaching, I challenge the listener to take a good, hard look at themselves. Who you are? How do you behave? And what is the character you are exhibiting in your relationships? (—Not the face you put on at the grocery store or when you walk into church, but the one you wear inside the four walls of your home.) Then we discuss five qualities that are crucial in having and building healthy relationships.

This podcast entitled, “Building Healthy Relationships: It All Starts With You,” is sure to, not only make you laugh, but is something you will truly be able to relate to and learn from. Listen in.  If there is any way possible, I would love for you to join me on Thursday mornings at 10am at the “Avenue” of East Coast Christian Center for a live teaching.

In closing, you may now subscribe to my You Tube Channel (click here) to view the video version of this series.  (I am so excited for this new adventure! #thisgirlisgoingtechno!!!!)  Or- to sign up to receive a notification via email each time I post, please scroll to the bottom of this post and enter your email.

May the Lord richly bless all the works of you hands!

Thank you,

Amy

Building Healthy Relationships Podcast: Will You Believe?

Building Healthy Relationships: Part 1- What I’ve Learned.

Building Healthy Relationships: Part 2- Will You Believe?

As simple minded as it may be, when I was a young girl, my heart’s one true desire was to be married.  But not just to any old man. Like most girls, I dreamed of sailing off into the sunset with the man of my dreams.

We often met at the ball. Me wearing my glass slippers, and he dressed to the nines in his perfectly pressed, black tuxedo. When the night began, we danced alone. But before the clock struck midnight, from across the room our eyes met.

My life was changed in an instant. It was love at first sight.

I knew he was “the one.” But more importantly, he knew me, as well.

I was his princess.

And he– was my prince; the man I had dreamed about for years. The one I spent a lifetime waiting for. He who knew me better than anyone else. The one who spent a lifetime cherishing, admiring and pampering me, his beloved wife. It was he, who could read my heart by simply looking into my eyes. My prince- the one who recognized my beauty and could see my worth. It was he- the only gentleman in the world worthy of my love.

It was my fairy tale. My dream. My heart’s desire…

Psalm 37:4, “Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.

In reality, I spent years waiting for the ball, expecting to one day meet my prince. For years, I was disappointed. Discouragement made her home in my heart. I’d lie awake at night wondering, “God- You who created the Universe- Why won’t you grant me just this one wish?”

It took some time, but eventually I came to understand… I wasn’t yet the wife deserving of the husband I so longed for.

In my time of waiting, God molded me into a woman perfectly suited for my loving prince. And, I promise you, he was well-worth the wait.

In this latest series, “Building Healthy Relationships,” I share some of the important lessons I learned in my time of waiting (lessons that have proven to be invaluable in the making of a beautiful life and healthy, happy relationships) and what you can do to begin the process of restoring and/or making stronger the relationships you are currently in.

Whether you are married or single, you will love this message of hope. God has a great plan for your life, and a great plan for your future. He desires that you have healthy, happy relationships. I am convinced that this series has the power to set you on course for a beautiful sunset and your own happily ever after.

Battlefield of the Mind Podcast: Don’t Give Up- The “Greats” Were People Just Like You.

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Battlefield of the Mind Podast: Don’t Give Up-

The “Greats” Were People Just Like You.

Do you have a dream on the inside of you that you long to accomplish? Maybe it is a vision to feed the hungry? Or house the poor? Have you thought about adopting a child or opening an orphanage? Maybe you dream of rescuing lost puppies or victims of sex trafficking.

No matter how big or small your vision is, there is a tendency for us to think, “How could ‘I’  make a difference?”

When the Lord calls His children to step out into something bigger than ourselves, our first instinct is to think that somehow He has got the wrong person for the job. “Surely,” we think, “The Lord wasn’t speaking that to me. He must have got the wrong person.”

We go on to make our lists of how underqualified we are for the job. Excuses like: “I don’t have enough money… I am to inpatient… I don’t have any good connections… I have never done that before…  I don’t know the first thing about how to………” And on and on the list goes.

Have you ever stop to think, though, about the “Greats” of the Bible?

I mean. Really. Stop and think about the “Greats” of the Bible. People like Moses. And Abraham. Gideon. And Esther. Ruth and Naomi. And King David. These men and women were people just like you and me- with all kinds of weakness and frailties. They had inadequacies and tempers- just like you and me. Yet, the Lord used them anyway.

In this last message from the Battlefield of the Mind series, entitled, “Don’t Give Up- The ‘Greats’ Were People Just Like You and Me” you will be reminded that God doesn’t call the qualified. He qualifies the called.

You. Yes. You. You have been called by your Father to greatness. Whether it is to greatness in your home. Your community. Your church. Your nation. Or your world. You were designed for greatness.

Isaiah 43:1, “But now, thus says the LORD, your Creator… And He who formed you… “Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name; you are Mine!”

I pray that as you listen to this message you will learn what it takes to fulfill that great call.

Father, I pray that every person who reads this blog and /or listens to this message would come to the revelation that You have a great plan for their lives. I pray they would understand that You aren’t looking for perfection. That you don’t call the qualified, but that you qualify those You call. And- that you have called each of us by name. I pray that you would remind your children that it is our weakness that  actually make us the right one for the job- that  You would receive ALL the glory. In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen.

Battlefield of the Mind Podcast: Quit Making Excuses

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Battlefield of the Mind: Quit Making Excuses

In life, everyone has a story. I have found that it doesn’t really matter what “your story” is, if you are looking for a reason to stay in the place you are, (not pressing toward the good life the Lord has for you) you will always be able to find one.

If we are not careful, the reason we are the way we are, can quickly turn into the excuse we use to stay that way.  When our reasons become our excuses, we get ourselves into trouble. These excuses keep us stagnant and prevent us from moving into the victory that God has for us.

Your past or present may be more challenging than someone else’s. But- it is not your past situation or even your current one that prevents you from entering into your Promised Land. Rather– it is your attitude and mindset toward your set of circumstances and the excuses you make that keep you in bondage to defeat.

In today’s “Battlefield of the Mind” podcast, I will show you five practical steps you can take to begin to move toward the victorious life you long for. If you take a few moments to listen and then apply the principles in this series to your life, you will not be disappointed. You are guaranteed to reap great benefits. It is how God’s Word works.

Galatians 6:7, “Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, this he will also reap.”

Battlefield of the Mind Podcast: Please Make Everything Easy, I Can’t Take It If Things Are Too Hard!

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Battlefield of the Mind Podcast

I have heard it said that life is 90% attitude and 10% circumstance.  In other words, life isn’t so much about what happens to you, but how you respond to it. The longer I live, the more I recognize this truth as fact. I am wholly convinced that having the right attitude is a key principle in navigating through life successfully.

Having the wrong mindset towards a circumstance can turn a menial task into one of the most grueling ones. If you don’t believe me, just think for a moment about how much your children complain when offered a bite of a food they don’t like. What would take 5 seconds to chew and swallow will quickly turn into a long, drawn out temper-tantrum at the dinner table ending in tears and frustration an hour later.

Unfortunately, like children facing brussel sprouts, when facing challenges in life many people destroy themselves before they ever even get started. They kill their opportunity for success with mindsets that sound something like this… “I can’t take it anymore. This is just too hard!”

I promise you- You are stronger than you know.

Whatever it is that you are going through today, I want to encourage you. With the right attitude, you will make it through the other side. The Lord has promised you victory. You are strong enough to bear it. And it is not too difficult for you!

Deuteronomy 30:11, “For this commandment which I command you this day is not too difficult for you, nor is it far off.”

In this podcast based on Joyce Meyer’s book, “Battlefield of the Mind”, you will learn how to work with the grace of God to bring about the desired change in your attitudes allowing you to face every situation with the proper mindset for victory.

Battlefield of the Mind Podcast: Wilderness Mentalities

Part 1: “My Future is Determined by My Past and My Present”

Part 2:”Someone Do It for Me; I Don’t Want to Take Responsibility.”

Battlefield of the Mind: Wilderness Mentalities

Can you imagine going through life with dark tinted windows? Shades over your eyes? Or walking in a fog? Never truly being able to appreciate the world for what it has to offer.

Would you even know how blue the sky really is? Or how brightly the sun shines every day?

Unfortunately, many people who go through life like this don’t realize they are missing out on anything. They are blinded by darkness, yet it is unbeknownst to them. They don’t have literal shades on, but these people see life through a foggy filter that warps every good gift and constantly leaves them wanting more.

I used to be “one of them.”

I had so much to be thankful for, yet I couldn’t truly appreciate my life. I was forever looking at what was missing in my life. Instead of appreciating all the good things I had been blessed with, I focused on the few things I was lacking.

My mind was a wilderness, full of all kinds of wrong mindsets. I was deceived into thinking all kinds of lies. One of the biggest was this: If I could just get this, then I would be that…  And then, I’d really be happy.

Over the course of time, through much prayer and seeking the Lord, I realized this simple truth… “You can’t make an unhappy person, happy.”  A person who is a wilderness on the inside will feel discontent even in the most majestic of places.

Once I made this awesome discovery, my life began to change. Not because my situation changed. The change took place inside of me. My wilderness mindset soon turned into a bubbling brook.

John 7:38, “Whoever believes in Me, as scripture has said, rivers of living water will flow from within them.”

In this podcast, based on Joyce Meyer’s best-selling book, “Battlefield of the Mind,” you will learn how to change your wilderness mentalities into life producing ones.

Hope and Healing Through Hurting Times

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Hope and Healing Through Hurting Times

When we go through a trial in life, one of the biggest lies of the enemy  is to make us feel as though we are alone; that no one else struggles with similar challenges; and that we will never get though to the other side of our mess in victory. The truth is, however, that in life we all go through difficult seasons. We all struggle with unruly emotions at times, and with the right tools, we can make it to the other side victoriously.

Learning how to negotiate the emotions that come with being hurt or disappointed is key in finding healing. In this week’s podcast, my long-time friend, Tania Stout, shares how she overcame adversity when life didn’t turn out the way she expected. She shares with complete candor what it is to be vulnerable and how to grieve the loss of a dream in order to reach a place of total wholeness in mind, soul and body.

I believe, you too, will be inspired to work through your emotions to reach a place of wholeness as you listen this week. (We will return to Week 8 of the Battlefield of the Mind series next week.)

About Tania…

Tania Stout is a licensed Mental Health Counselor and graduated with her Master’s in Mental Health Counseling from the University of Central Florida in 2006, and has been working with children and families for the past twelve years.  Tania specializes in the treatment of trauma and is an EMDR trained clinician.   Tania is highly skilled in working with individuals, couples and families and her areas of specialty also include: anxiety, depression, women’s emotional health, play therapy and child and adolescent behavior issues.  Tania has also had specific training in perinatal mood disorders and has worked with new mothers experiencing post-partum depression. She is also certified as a Supreme Court Family Mediator and has completed the parent coordination training.

Tania became a therapist to help people navigate life’s challenges in order to live a healthier, happier life.  She dedicates a focused commitment to her clients in providing the highest quality of care and believes people can change, heal, recover, grow and achieve maximum results in reaching their full potential and dreams.  She is characterized by others as a genuine and highly passionate therapist and has excelled in facilitating her clients in working through their past and current struggles in order to achieve new insights for optimum personal growth.

 For more information on Tania’s private counseling practice, please visit her at www.VeritasCounselingInc.com

Battlefield of the Mind Podcast: The Mind of Christ

Part 1: A Passive Mind

Part 2: The Mind of Christ

Battlefield of the Mind Podcast Week 7: The Mind of Christ

 The night before His crucifixion, Jesus instructs His disciples not to be troubled (John 14:1).  Jesus knows the disciples are about to face the most trying time of their lives. He is well aware that His death is going to rock the disciples to the core. Yet, He commands them not to allow their hearts or minds to be troubled.

Think  about this situation from the disciples’ standpoint for a moment.

The disciples believed Jesus was the long-awaited Messiah who was the “King of Kings.” They laid down their lives to follow Him. Each disciple left his family and friends to pursue the Lord. The disciples left their comfort and security to follow Jesus. These twelve men quit their jobs to join Jesus in teaching others about God.

They falsely expected Jesus to set up His kingdom on Earth.

But He didn’t.

Instead, Jesus fulfilled the plan of God by laying down His life on Calvary’s Cross. He died the death of a murderer -even though He had done nothing wrong.

How confusing for Peter, James, John and the disciples. As far as they could see, everything they had lived for up until this point was gone.  Their livelihood appeared to be destroyed. Their Messiah was dead. And with His death… went their hopes, dreams and plans.

Peering at the Cross, these men could not make sense of what had taken place. Yet Jesus, knowing how completely defeated His disciples would feel, told His followers not to let their hearts be troubled.

This Word is still as pertinent today as it was 2014 years ago. It doesn’t matter what you are going through, how things appear, or whether or not they are as you expected. If you will keep your eyes on Jesus and trust in His plan, you can remain in perfect peace through every storm knowing that His plans far supersede your understanding

Isaiah 26:3, “You will guard him and keep him in perfect and constant peace whose mind (both its inclination and its character) is stayed on You, because he commits himself to You, leans on You, and hopes confidently in You.”

In this Battlefield of the Mind Podcast, I give real life examples on everything from how to keep your home life in order to letting your voice be heard in your relationships. Through personal examples and teaching from the Word of God, you will learn how to overcome passivity and walk in the mind of Christ.

I am confident you will enjoy this latest “Battlefield of the Mind” podcast on Chapter 12 and 13 of Joyce Meyer’s best-selling book, “Battlefield of the Mind.” Check it out!