Put Off the Old Man

“Harnessing Your Emotions” Week 6

Podcast: Part 1- “Put Off the Old Man”

Podcast: part 2- “Steps to Renewing Your Mind”

Ephesians 4:22-24, “22Put off concerning the former conversation the old man, which is corrupt according to deceitful lusts; 23And be renewed in the spirit of your mind; 24And that ye put on the new man, which after God is created in righteousness and true holiness.”

When we ask Christ to be the Lord our lives,  God replaces our old spirit with the Spirit of the living God. It is this born again spirit that is righteous and perfect just as Christ is. It is our Spirit that is the part of us the Bible refers to as the “new man.” But the Spirit is not the only part of a person. Man is, actually, a three part being: spirit, soul and body. The other two parts (the soul and body) are what the Bible refers to as the “old man.”

Some people think when you are born again that the old person simply ceases to exist. However, this is far from the truth. The old you isn’t erased away completely just because you have asked Christ to be your Lord. After you are born again, you are no longer a child of the devil, but you are still left with some of the old you always had. You still have the same old feelings that got you into trouble. You still have the same, old emotions that are often unstable and out of control. And unfortunately, the same, old perceptions about yourself and others–still exist.

Before we come to Christ, the image of who we are is often through a distorted lens. To put it bluntly; the way we think is often messed up. When our thinking is messed up, we filter all that we do through this wrong thinking causing our behavior to be wrong.

In order to become all we are called to become in Christ Jesus, we have to change the way we think. We must renew our minds according to God’s Word. We must become acquainted with what God thinks and says about us.

In this Podcast from the “Harnessing Your Emotions” series you will learn all about how to put off the wrong thinking that keeps you in a constant state of turmoil; and how to put on right thinking according to God’s Word bringing hope and peace.  I hope you will take a few minutes to listen in. It is sure to change your life!

Let Go of the Guilt and Move Forward!

“Harnessing Your Emotions” Week 5 Podcast-

Part 1: “Let Go of the Guilt”

 Part 2: “Move Forward”

Have you ever wrestled with guilt?—Wondering what is the point of it? And why can’t you seem to just “let it go?”

We get a guilty conscience when we do wrong; not so that we will feel bad solely for the sake of feeling bad. No.— God does not want His kids walking around with their heads down feeling like worthless slugs. God loves His kids. He created us to be confident overcomers in a difficult world.

Despite what some think, there is a greater purpose behind the feeling of guilt than what we see. Guilt is a tool used to enlighten our minds to sin when it is present in our lives. It’s purpose is to ultimately cause us to turn our hearts to God and repent.

2 Corinthians 7:9,9Now rejoice, not that you were made sorrowful, but that you were made sorrowful to the point of repentance; for you were made sorrowful according to the will of God, so that you might not suffer loss in anything through us.”

It doesn’t, however, always work as intended. In fact, for years the guilt I felt in my life for doing wrong caused me to run from God. Somewhere in the recesses of my mind, I knew I couldn’t out run God. But it didn’t stop me from trying. I ran and ran trying to make myself believe the lie that what I was doing was ok. I ran hoping to get away from the guilt that gnawed at my soul.

Then one day I made a choice to stop running. I stopped in the face my Maker; guilty of a more than I cared to admit. In doing so, I discovered that in all my running, I was not alone. Not only was the Lord running with me, but He was forging the path ahead of Me– that I might find Him; not to beat me up for doing wrong. But to tell me how very much He loved me.

And… that I was forgiven.

And… that nothing could separate me from His love. Not my sins from the past. Not my sins in the present. And not the sins I would commit in my future.

Jesus Christ erased my sin the moment I repented. He wiped my sin as far away as the east is from the west. What a glorious truth I discovered.

Have you discovered it for yourself?

This podcast from the “Harnessing Your Emotions” series, entitled “Let Go of the Guilt and Move Forward” was recorded just for you. If you have yet to discover the truth of God’s Word that you have been set free– Listen in to this very vulnerable message. It is sure to set you free! And may God bless You as you experience freedom in knowing you have been set free from your past.

Change Your Perspective, Change Your Emotions

“Harnessing Your Emotions: Week 4”

Podcast: “Change Your Perspective, Change Your Emotions”

It never ceases to amaze me that two people can look at the very same item and see two completely different things. Some say the glass is half empty. Others say it is half full. One person calls it an antique. Another says it’s just old.  I might call it trash. You may know it’s a treasure.

I am convinced that many of the troubles we face in life could be easily overcome if we would simply envision them through a different lens. To stay on an even keel emotionally, we must  look at life with a heavenly perspective.

2 Corinthians 4:18, “We look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen; for the things which are seen are temporal; but the things which are not seen are eternal.”

In life, there are always two sides to everything: The temporal and the eternal; The reality (what we see) and the Truth (what God sees); There is the potential problem and the potential solution. In everything, the carnal man sees the potential problem.  The spiritual man sees the potential solution. Said another way… The carnal man or woman sees the difficulty in every opportunity. The spirit led man or woman sees the opportunity in every difficulty.

In every situation, you have a choice to make. All that could go wrong or all that could go right? Carnal or Spiritual? Earthly or Heavenly? The choice is yours. But I can promise you this… If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at will change.

This podcast, based on Andrew Wommack’s book, “Harnessing Your Emotions,” takes a look at the role perspective plays in handling life’s challenges. I encourage you to take a few minutes and listen in. Even if you aren’t a Christian, I guarantee you, you will be glad to gain these great insights.

Faith and Your Emotions

Harnessing Your Emotions Podcast

Part 1: Faith And Your Emotions Podcast

Part 2: Faith And Your Emotions Podcast

The Word of God says that as Christians, we are to make our decisions in life,  not based on what we see in the natural, but by our faith in who God is and in what He promises us as His children.

2 Corinthians 5:7 (AMP), “For we walk by faith (that is we regulate our lives and conduct ourselves by our conviction or belief – respecting man’s relationship to God and divine things, with trust and holy fervor, thus we walk) not by sight or appearance,” 

Our faith in God’s Word is critical in seeing His perfect plan unfold in our lives. It is the fuel that brings God’s plans into existence into the natural realm. Too many Christians, however, don’t understand the basic principles laid out in the Word of God. Our prayers are often more like wishful chants sent off into the air in hopes that somehow God will have mercy on us and move.

But, this isn’t faith.

And… it isn’t how the kingdom of God works. No. We aren’t childrend tapping on their Daddy’s shoulder begging Him to move on our behalf.

Truly speaking, Christ already did everything He is going to do on Calvary. It is our responsibility as believers to have faith in what Jesus already did in order to see His perfect plan manifest in our lives. This is the type of faith we are supposed to have.

If you need a faith boost, this podcast is for you. It will position you to be able to better receive that which Christ has already purchased for you. He has already given you everything you need to live and walk in victory in life and in regards to your emotions.

“Father, I pray, that every person that hears this podcast would rise to a new level of faith in who you are and what you have done for them. I pray that you would take what has already been done in the supernatural and bring it to pass in the physical as we place our trust wholeheartedly in you. In Jesus name, Amen.”

Harnessing Your Emotions

“Harnessing Your Emotions”

PODCAST: “Yes! You CAN Have Stable Emotions”

John 10:10, “The thief comes only in order to steal, kill and destroy. I came that they may have and enjoy life, and have it in abundance (to the full, till it overflows.)”

Are you overwhelmed with being overwhelmed? Tired of being anxious and wrought up all the time? Worried about your future? Regretful of your past? Sad? Mad at the world? Cranky? Tired? Or simply fed up?

The Word declares in John 10:10 that the thief seeks to destroy your life, but Lord came in order that you would enjoy it. Enjoying your life and having joy in your life until it overflows means having joy in every aspect of your life– including joy no matter what negative thing is happening in your life. Enjoying your life means having stability in your emotions, too.

Christ died to set you free from everything that keeps you from living the life He has called you to. If you have you been riding the rollercoaster of unruly emotions, Christ has already purchased your ticket off. Emotional stability is available to you today. But… It’s up to you to go after and pursue this life.

This series based on Andrew Wommack’s book, “Harnessing Your Emotions” will help you in this process. If you want to know more about how to walk in emotional stability, I encourage you to listen to the podcast above.

March was Rough. Can Anyone Relate?

March was a rough month.

A million questions surged through my mind. Questions I dare not ask. I know better. Some questions have no answer. This I know.

To wrestle is natural. But– I want to live above the natural. Life is more than what we can see with our two eyes. Or touch with our hands. Or feel with our hearts. This, I also know.

Each moment holds a mystery yet to be revealed. Even if it one we don’t understand. I am not to wrestle. I am to rest. Isn’t rest a place that God, our Maker, our Father has called us to? Are not His children, called to walk by faith?

I don’t want to doubt. My heart longs to earnestly trust even with the secret things.

Deuteronomy 29:29, “The LORD our God has secrets known to no one. We are not accountable for them…”

There are simply some things I will never know. Secrets that are known only by God. It is what makes me human. And Him Lord. I must come to terms with this in my mind once and for all.

Yes. In this season, I need to trust.

Rather than ask the questions, I pour my heart out to the Lord. Tears wet my pillow. My heart aches. I can’t explain it. I can only tell you, that I feel it deep within my bones.

I cry myself to sleep.

My soul yearns to see His power. To pray for others and to get results. To listen and know it is His voice I am hearing. To take the next step, and to move in the direction of His will. To see His plans unfold in this life. On this earth.

I don’t want fame or riches. I couldn’t care less about recognition. What I need to know is that I am fulfilling His purpose with this one life. I need to see lives changed because of His love. I need to know that the power of His resurrection is at work today in this life. On this earth.

In this season, I will choose to trust.

To trust His plans… To trust His ways… To trust His timing…

To trust Him.

No-one said life would be easy. We all walk through difficult seasons. Silent seasons. Seasons in the wilderness. Uncertain seasons. Seasons we wish would move faster than they do.

Rather than wrestle with why. Or how. Or when. We need to rest; To embrace every season. Even the difficult ones.

Yes. Even the difficult ones.

If you are like me, and need help in this area today, pray this prayer with me:

“Lord, Help me to embrace every season of life. The ones that make no sense to me, and the ones that do. Help me today to find rest; To trust your plan for my life; To find the greater purpose in every one of life’s trials. Help me to trust You to a new degree; To walk through the difficult seasons with grace. Help me to trust your timing. Your ways. And Your plans. When I am tempted to doubt. Or question. Or worry. Lord, I pray that your sweet Spirit would remind me who is in control; that my times are in Your hands. Remind me, Lord, not to get stuck here. Remind me…. that seasons change. In Jesus name I pray, Amen.”





Building Healthy Relationships Podcast: Keys to Good Communication


Part 1 : Building Healthy Relationships: Keys to Good Communication

Part 2: Building Healthy Relationships: Keys to Good Communication

There are all kinds of people. Those who are great musicians. And those who can’t carry a tune; Those who understand quantum physics. And those who can’t even pronounce it. There are people who thrive on solving problems. And those who run from anything hard. Some people like to eat the same meal, at the same restaurant, every time. Others hate routine and can’t wait to treat themselves to something fresh.

Every one of the Lord’s children is unique. He has given each one of us areas of great strength. In the same vein, we were all born with areas of weaknesses. Believe it or not, it is those differences that keep our lives (and relationships) interesting.

No one would ever say they want their loved-ones to be a carbon copy of themselves. Yet, too often, that is what we unknowingly attempt to do. We spin our wheels trying to turn our loved ones into our twins. We pray that God will make them  view situations the way we  see them; that they  will seek the dreams we desire; and that He will move on their  heart to come into agreement with our plans.

God’s plan, however, is that we would celebrate our differences and learn to communicate in a way that brings honor to the other person in our relationships. His plan is not for us to have conflict free relationships. On the contrary, God’s plan is to teach us through our differences how to love (and look) like Christ no matter what those differences are.

Let’s be real. When two unique individuals come together, conflict will undoubtedly ensue. Every marriage has difficulties. Every relationship has conflict. In fact, there is no such thing as a disagreement-free relationship. It is not the lack of conflict that makes a relationship good. Rather, it is how well two people manage the conflict they face that determines the strength of that relationship.

Improperly managed conflict has the potential to turn two loving people into enemies in quite abruptly… Maybe you have experienced this before. Have you lost hope of the possibility of ever having the relationships you long for? I want you to know today: You can have the relationships that you desire. God wants to make that possible by being at the center of all your relationships. It is not a pipe-dream. Or a fairy tale. With a little knowledge and a lot of depending on Jesus, you can learn how to communicate in a way that leads to life.

By studying how to communicate, you can have the emotional connections you desire.

Proverbs 15:28, “The heart of the righteous studies how to answer, But the mouth of the wicked pours fourth evil.”

Learning how to communicate your needs to your spouse, to your loved-ones and to your children, is critical in obtaining the healthy relationships you crave. I have said over and over again that relationships rise or fall based on how well two people communicate. I wholeheartedly believe this is true.

In this week’s Building Healthy Relationships Podcast: Keys to Good Communication, I discuss seven areas crucial for effective communication. I am confident you will be able to relate to the personal stories I share from my own life and marriage. And after tuning in, you will be better equipped to effectively manage the conflicts you face. I hope you will take some time to listen in. The answers you have been looking for are right within your reach. The next step is up to you.

Building Healthy Relationships Podcast: 6 Absolutes of Good Communication

Building Healthy Relationships: 6 Absolutes of Good Communication – Part 1

Building Healthy Relationships: 6 Absolutes of Good Communication – Part 2

One night as I was preparing for this “Building Healthy Relationship” series, my daughter, Aspen suggested that I should have a guest speaker share at the study. Curious, I asked her who she thought that  person ought to be. With her finger pointed toward herself, I wondered what she could possibly bring to the table in a discussion about building healthy relationships. So I asked her the question…

*****“What does a good relationship look like?”******

Her answer amazed me. So, as requested, here are 12 ingredients needed to have healthy relationships through the eyes of a ten year old- written word for word without any coaxing.

  1. You need to be able to say, “You’re right. I am wrong. I made a mistake.”
  2. You need to know that life isn’t always about you.
  3. You need to be able to keep your emotions in tact.
  4. You need to be selfless.
  5. When you aren’t agreeing on something, sometimes you need to let them have it their way and compromise.
  6. You should talk it out when you have a problem.
  7. You need to be nice and not focus on everything bad about them.
  8. You need to tell them good things about themselves.
  9. Whenever something is bothering the other person, you need to show them that you care by hugging them, kissing them and telling them good stuff about them.
  10. You need to go on dates and spend time together.
  11. You need to read the Bible and books about having good relationships.
  12. You need to say “thank you” when they do something for you.

Amazing how much we could benefit from putting these few bites of information into practice in our lives.

This week’s podcast focuses on the 6 Absolutes of Good Communication – six things we should never do/say if we want to have good relationships in our life. I hope you take a moment to listen in.

Please join us on Thursday mornings at 10am in the Avenue Worship Center of East Coast Christian Center in Merritt Island, Florida for the continuation of the “Building Healthy Relationships” series.

Building Healthy Relationships Podcast: Building Godly Character

Building Healthy Relationships: Part 1- Being Servant-Hearted.

Building Healthy Relationships: Part 2- Be led by the Spirit, Not by your Emotions.

Building Healthy Relationships: Part 3- Be intentional

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April 21, 2002. My hands were sweaty. My knees- weak. My stomach in knots from the butterflies that kept bumping into each other. I was twirling in circles on the inside. My heart was reeling with a flood of emotion. My mind spinning on a merry-go-round.

Could this man be the one I have been praying all my life for?

As I sat across the table from him at Outback Steakhouse in Vero Beach, Florida, he took my hands and held them with his heart. I cried a flood of tears as he asked about my parents’ divorce a few years earlier. I had only known him for a few hours, but it felt like a lifetime. He was so tender. So sweet. So loving. And wonderful.

The next few months were the most intensely thrilling days of our lives. We barely ate. We hardly slept. We spent hours upon hours talking into the wee hours of the night. We bore our heart and souls to one another. When we weren’t together, we were thinking about all of the wonderful qualities the other possessed.

We magnified the good, and the good got even better. We skipped over every fault, and they were non-existent. (It is amazing what this concept will do for any relationship.)

Falling in love is wondrous. It’s miraculous. And magical.

But for most couples, it doesn’t last. In fact, according to some statistics, approximately 50% of marriages end in divorce. Such a sad, staggering thought; and so contrary to God’s plan for His children to join together as “one flesh.”

Genesis 2:25, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”

Have you ever contemplated how two people fall ‘head over heels’ in love so easily? And yet, that same couple can manage to fall out of love so fast?

In reality, keeping those feelings alive has little to do with a feeling (or who you chose for a spouse.) Rather, staying in love has to do with how intentional you are in those relationships. If we put half as much effort into staying in love as we put into falling into it, we would begin to experience marriage as it was intended to be.

Honestly, love has nothing to do with “falling” at all.

Love is a choice.

And the truth is, good relationships don’t just happen. They are intentional. Great friendships require work. Top-notch marriages are built… And if yours are broken, the good news is- with some intentionality- they can be rebuilt from the ground up.

This week’s “Building Healthy Relationships”podcast focuses on the qualities of (1) being servant hearted, (2)being led be the Spirit of God and not by your emotions and (3) being intentional in your relationships. I hope you will take some time to listen in on how to build (or rebuild) healthy relationships in your life.