Building Healthy Relationships Podcast: Building Godly Character
March 2, 2015
Building Healthy Relationships: Part 1- Being Servant-Hearted.
Building Healthy Relationships: Part 2- Be led by the Spirit, Not by your Emotions.
Building Healthy Relationships: Part 3- Be intentional
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April 21, 2002. My hands were sweaty. My knees- weak. My stomach in knots from the butterflies that kept bumping into each other. I was twirling in circles on the inside. My heart was reeling with a flood of emotion. My mind spinning on a merry-go-round.
Could this man be the one I have been praying all my life for?
As I sat across the table from him at Outback Steakhouse in Vero Beach, Florida, he took my hands and held them with his heart. I cried a flood of tears as he asked about my parents’ divorce a few years earlier. I had only known him for a few hours, but it felt like a lifetime. He was so tender. So sweet. So loving. And wonderful.
The next few months were the most intensely thrilling days of our lives. We barely ate. We hardly slept. We spent hours upon hours talking into the wee hours of the night. We bore our heart and souls to one another. When we weren’t together, we were thinking about all of the wonderful qualities the other possessed.
We magnified the good, and the good got even better. We skipped over every fault, and they were non-existent. (It is amazing what this concept will do for any relationship.)
Falling in love is wondrous. It’s miraculous. And magical.
But for most couples, it doesn’t last. In fact, according to some statistics, approximately 50% of marriages end in divorce. Such a sad, staggering thought; and so contrary to God’s plan for His children to join together as “one flesh.”
Genesis 2:25, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”
Have you ever contemplated how two people fall ‘head over heels’ in love so easily? And yet, that same couple can manage to fall out of love so fast?
In reality, keeping those feelings alive has little to do with a feeling (or who you chose for a spouse.) Rather, staying in love has to do with how intentional you are in those relationships. If we put half as much effort into staying in love as we put into falling into it, we would begin to experience marriage as it was intended to be.
Honestly, love has nothing to do with “falling” at all.
Love is a choice.
And the truth is, good relationships don’t just happen. They are intentional. Great friendships require work. Top-notch marriages are built… And if yours are broken, the good news is- with some intentionality- they can be rebuilt from the ground up.
This week’s “Building Healthy Relationships”podcast focuses on the qualities of (1) being servant hearted, (2)being led be the Spirit of God and not by your emotions and (3) being intentional in your relationships. I hope you will take some time to listen in on how to build (or rebuild) healthy relationships in your life.